August 2016

A Mother’s Bond

A mother’s bond

A20151117_074833 mother’s bond with their child is something no one can understand. Just as no one can understand a fathers bond with their child. For 20151118_121933 a mother, we carry our child for 9 long months. Feeling their kicks, hiccups, and every little move they make. We are able to feel them before they are even born. Before we are even able to see them. We nurture them, supply everything they need, and eventually give birth to them. We go through unimaginable pain to bring our precious bundle into this world.

My bond with my son

My child is my everything. He is my heart and soul. He is my best friend. My baby love. There is absolutely nothing I wouldn’t do  for my son. I breastfeed him, take care of him day and night, and I am always there for him. Being a stay at home mom I am able to b1468103213542uild on the bond my son and I have. I have this bond with him that no one else will be able to have. The bond, a mother and her son share, is something not to mess with. It is something only we can have. Something that will grow as he gets older and never go away.

Having this bond is so important in a relationship between mother and child. It is something you will rely on when things get tough. It is something that will help them when they are having a rough day or not feeling well. This is the bond a mother and child share the day you find out your pregnant. You start building your bond when you are pregnant and just expand on it and nurture it when they are born. Never give up on this bond. Continue to nurture it as they grow up and have kids of their own. Even then they will rely on this bond to get through life with their own children.

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A mother’s love

A Mother’s Love

A Mother's Love     Being a mother is something magical. It doesn’t come with a handbook or with rules and regulations. It’s based on pure motherly instinct.  You don’t start, knowing what to do or how to do it. You just do it. There will be some days that are better than others. There will be days that you just don’t know if you’re doing it right.

You’re not alone

A Mother's LoveYou are not alone. Some days I feel like I am on top of the world and have this mother thing down. Then there are other days that I feel like I am a complete failure. There are days I am just ready to give up but know I can not. I have this precious little boy who drives me crazy but I love him to death. Being able to see his smile, hear his laugh, and watch him learn something new. That is the best thing in the world. Being there to wipe his tears, to cuddle him when he needs his mommy, and being there to make him feel better when he is not feeling good. That is something a mom is born to do.

A Mother's LoveYou’re there to teach them right from wrong. To teach them how to be strong independent people when they grow up. You’re there to teach them how to succeed in life. A mother is there to pick them back up when they fall and encourage them to try again. Being a mother is definitely not easy and no one ever said it was, after all, it is called motherhood. Just be there for them, love them, cherish them, and support them. You may not have a handbook to teach you how to raise them. What you do have though is your heart to always love them. That is what they need the most, their mothers love. With that, they can do anything and you can conquer motherhood.

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Teach your child to get back up and try again

    Learning to walk

My son is now trying to walk so falls a lot. I honestly try not to react no matter how much I want to. The more I react the more my son will. If I don’t react he will roll over and try again. The moment I do the water works start flowing.

Being a parent its hard to see your child stumble. You want to make things easier for them and help them. Eventually we have to let go whether it’s letting their hands go to take steps or letting them do things on their own. It is the only way they will learn. Build the independence they are going to need as they get older.

As parents we don’t want to let go and see our child grow up. We want to keep them little as long as possible. No matter how much we want them to stay little it is just not realistic. They have to grow up eventually and move out on their own. Make their own memories and experiences.

Lessons

Some of those experiences we would rather them not have but it is part of life. I hate seeing my little 7 month old fall but I know this is something he has to do. Least if he learns to fall he also learns to get back up and try again. He may not get it the second time but eventually he will. That is a life lesson all children must learn to thrive in life. Being a parents means being their teacher as well after all the first lessons are taught at home.

My job as a parent is to make sure he gets back up and tries again. Make sure he not only survives in the world but thrive. It is never to early for a child to learn. Just remember no matter how old they get they will always be your baby. I just hope as he gets older that he will come to me if he has any questions or needs help working through anything.

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Mommy and Me working out together

    Working out

Working out with a very active 8 month old is tough. I try to include him in every activity. Whether its me cleaning telling him how to do it or cooking having him in his high chair watching. I make sure he knows what is going on. It’s a great learning experience for them even at such a young age. It also helps that he wants to be included and learn.

Trying to work out when I never did even before I had him plus keeping an eye on him was just giving me an excuse not to. I had to find a way to include him in my work out. Didn’t help he kept trying to go under my feet. I didn’t want him to get injured nor have me fall.

After scouring YouTube (great place to find free workout videos) I found some mommy and me workouts so was able to include him. Instead of having to use weights I just used him. He had fun doing what I was doing and I got a great workout. I can honestly say I have never sweated so much before.

My son weighs 23lbs 7oz. So having to hold him was definitely kicking me into fat burning heart rate zone. I have a fit bit blaze thanks to my baby brother and his girlfriend (birthday present) so it tells me all my stats such as heart rate, time, calories, and what zone I am in. It is most definitely a great workout tool. I just suggest when working out with your little one invest in a baby carrier if you don’t already own one. As it will help you get better range of motion if not having to hold your little one.

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Relatives and unsolicited advice

Being a first time mom has its challenges not all are about your child some are about relatives. When you’re a new mom every one is ready to give advice whether solicited or unsolicited. Whether it is about what clothes your child should wear, whether you should supplement with formula if you’re breast-feeding, what kind of bottles to use, how much to feed your child, whether to buy your child toys and if so how many, and etc.

Everyone is giving you advice as well as telling you what you should and shouldn’t do. There are also some who try to correct you instead of letting you do things your own way. Trying to manage relatives is tough. Especially when you’re not only a first time mom but a young one as well (20). Some believe being older means your more experienced and knowledgeable about child rearing. In some cases that maybe true but in others it’s not.

Different generations

Different generations raise their child in different ways. I do like the old ways where children play outside instead of inside. I also do love technology and see some benefits in them as well. You just have to remember this is your child. Thank them for their advice but you don’t have to use it. Do what you think is best for your child. After all you did carry them for 9 months. Well in a father’s case assisted his spouse in those tough 9 months. Just remember you may not have asked for the advice, but it is in good manners to thank them none the less.

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